Are you constantly trying to get the approval of others, caring too much about what they think, and wasting precious energy overthinking everything? If so, you’re not alone. As women, many of us have wrestled with the weight of people-pleasing, letting others’ opinions dictate how we feel about ourselves. It’s exhausting, isn’t it?

I’ve been there, and I understand the struggle. But you don’t have to stay stuck. You can break free from this cycle and step into the confidence, peace, and joy that God has for you.

See if you recognize the signs of people-pleasing in yourself:

• Do you need others’ approval to feel good about yourself?
• Do you avoid conflict just to keep the peace, even when something needs to be said?
• Do you feel responsible for others’ feelings, and tolerate behavior that you shouldn’t?
• Is it hard for you to say “no,” and then you resent agreeing to things you don’t want to do?
• Do you second-guess your decisions or apologize unnecessarily?

If you nodded “yes” to any of these, you’re not alone. People-pleasing often stems from a desire for approval of others, and it can also take our focus off of God and His plans for our lives.

Galatians 1:10 says, “Am I now trying to win the approval of man, or of God? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.”

This verse can be transformational for us. I used to overthink about things I said or did, fearing judgment or rejection. It robbed me of peace and created anxiety. But God calls us to live for His approval, not the ever-changing opinions of others.  We are here to glorify God, after all.

Here’s 4 powerful ways to overcome people-pleasing and walk confidently in God’s truth:

1. Be Secure in God’s Love and Approval

As a Christian, you are already loved and approved by God. He calls you chosen, holy, and dearly loved (Colossians 3:12). You don’t need to live from a place of neediness, trying to earn validation. Instead, stand firm in the worth and value He has already placed in you.

2. Let Go of Others’ Opinions

Decide today to give others the freedom to think whatever they want about you. Their opinions are shaped by their own experiences & struggles, not your worth. Release the need to convince others of your value—it’s a weight you were never meant to carry.

3. Speak the Truth in Love

We are called to love others, but that doesn’t mean avoiding conflict or always agreeing. Ephesians 4:15 encourages us to “speak the truth in love.” Healthy relationships involve honest communication.

For example, early in my relationship with my husband, I struggled with addressing issues that were bothering me. Over time, I learned that discussing hard truths strengthened our connection and built trust. Speaking the truth with grace and love is a way to honor God and nurture relationships.

4. Pursue Knowing God

The more you know and love God, the easier it becomes to live for Him. Psalm 145 reminds us of His greatness, goodness, and faithfulness. Meditate on who He is—holy, wise, powerful, and compassionate.

When you focus on God’s character and His love for you, the opinions of others lose their grip. Live for Him, the audience of One who sees your heart and treasures you deeply.

You don’t have to let people-pleasing steal your joy or peace any longer. By leaning into God’s truth, you can live with confidence, set healthy boundaries, and focus on His plans for your life.